To all the one women, I’ve some marriage recommendation for you. Earlier than you let somebody seal it with a hoop and and signal the nikkah nama, I need to channel my desi sister and inform you somethings that in all probability somebody ought to have advised me after I was tying the knot.

Once I see so many ladies getting married or simply considering on the prospect of getting a husband and her house, it excites me, positive however I additionally need you to know that, don’t let the thought of a dream marriage ceremony and the joy cloud your determination of getting married and pay heed to the wedding recommendation that my internal desi soul desires to share with you and your mates and their mates.

There are such a lot of issues I may inform you, however for now, listed here are 5 issues that each woman ought to know earlier than she fortunately says sure!


Neither is marriage a solo present, neither is it a contest. Marriage is like group work the place two folks come along with all their positives and negatives, concepts, ideas and opinion with one widespread aim, i.e is to realize marital bliss. To implement your individuality on one another and anticipate one of many events to run the marathon is a path of a single particular person.

Earlier than getting married, it’s crucial to determine what you need out of it, so take time to replicate in your thought course of and the way you’re feeling about this step. As a result of half of your relationship will rely upon how a lot you may tolerate, the quantity of strain you may take and what are you keen to offer to make all the pieces work.

One of many largest errors that almost all of us make in a wedding is once we need to change the opposite particular person and mold them into our thought of “perfect” whether or not they’re bodily or psychological adjustments. What we must always do as a substitute is settle for our accomplice for precisely who they’re and work with and round them to enhance one another, collectively.

Mutual respect means concerning somebody for his or her values, qualities, abilities, accepting their method of doing issues and simply letting them be their very own particular person of their private {and professional} lives. Merely calling your accomplice “AP” or their mother and father “Ammi/Abbu” or being good to their household will not be synonymous to mutual respect. Respecting a “human being” signifies that you embrace them whole-heartedly as effectively their emotional and psychological boundaries, whereas by no means dropping sight of what you need out of this relationship.

It’s actually necessary so that you can know the particular person whom you’re getting married as to whether it’s a love or organized marriage. Talk with them by means of calls, messages or conferences, and don’t base your ultimate determination over a number of dinners. Extra importantly, take your time earlier than speeding into tying the knot. Who’re they? What do they like? The place do they see you two collectively within the subsequent 5 years? Observe their conduct, physique language and the way in which they deal with others. So talk persistently and don’t be afraid to ask any questions.

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